We (men and women) often fight just for something trivial. They have different things to think. Women are interested in something emotional and personal, and person to person relationship. They focus on detail, remember many things frequently ignored by men. Allan and Barbara Pease write on their book that men’s brains are specialised. Compartmentalised. A male brain is configured to concentrate on one specific, dedicated task at once and most men will tell you they can only do ‘one thing at a time’. Men think simpler than women.
Women worry about everything, men do not understand what women worry about. Unfortunately, women assume that men will know what they want or need. When a man doesn’t pick up on her cues, she accuses him of being insensitive – “Why don’t you get the clue!’ Men everywhere bleat, ‘Am I supposed to be a mindreader?’ Research proves that men are poor mindreaders. Boom!
Problems between men and women is getting worse because of different “languages”. They communicate in different ways. Women tend to be expressive and use parable in their conversation. Men talk simply and directly. They only mention crucial points.
For men, to talk is to relate the facts. For a woman, speech continues to have such a clear purpose: to build relationships and make friends.
“If a woman is talking to you a lot, she likes you. If she’s not talking to you, you’re in trouble”. Bang!